How Coronavirus Pandemic Made My Life Better

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Or even any conversation at all.

Let’s face it: the days of a new mother (or any primary caregiver) are filled with changing diapers, walking around with a pram, cleaning, mopping and picking up the litter, doing laundry, listening to the cries, trying to think up a new activity every five minutes because that’s how long a baby’s attention span is, running errands, getting the baby to the doctor, going to drugstores to pick up prescriptions, cooking for the rest of the family, and those stolen moments when you swallow your morning cup of coffee (long cold), standing at the kitchen counter and listening with one ear to what’s happening in the nursery while the little offspring is finally tucked into bed.

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That’s it.

When the current COVID-19 pandemic struck, my husband had to switch to home office. Also I had an aunt visiting and helping out because I needed all the help I could enlist. When the pandemic became serious, her return flight was canceled and she was stuck with us, with no means of returning to homeland.

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Isn’t it the very same thing that us new mothers had to endure for months and in some cases years, long before the pandemic? Do you honestly think we are any different? That we have different needs?

We were living in social isolation long before the term was even invented. Or is the happiness of having a child supposed to outweigh all the drawbacks that come with it?

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Was the difference that now it wasn’t “just” women needing it?

Because women, especially mothers, they didn’t count, right? They were supposed to do it. They made their choice; the whole world now experiencing the pandemic didn’t. So perhaps it made sense that things turned out this way. That possibilities appeared out of thin air where seemingly they haven’t existed at all before.

Or have they?

Don’t get me wrong. I am happy that all those opportunities sprang out. I am hoping at least some of them will prove to be durable. That they will stay with us long term and help other people not to be alone so much when they are taking care of their children.



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In German, Rabenmutter is a “Raven mother” — a mother, neglecting her children. In short, not a very good mother.