How To Break Apart a Family: War In Ukraine

How is your family? Did you get someone out? How did they manage to leave?

Most of the people I know managed to get at least some loved ones out. Some pulled out the whole family, some only one person, or a few. Some are still glued to the news on the internet, scrolling the Telegram channels, refreshing online maps, reading headlines on news websites. Hoping — oh so hoping — to not see their hometown, their street, there. Because someone was left behind. Too old, too sick, too weak, too scared, can’t drive, no car. Or just trapped in a town where military action literally doesn’t stop, so there’s no “green corridor”, no evacuation option.

Photo by Egor Lyfar on Unsplash
Are these military objects? Ukraine, March 2022. Photos from
The ghost soldiers. — Photo by Caleb Fisher on Unsplash
Clashes in Kyiv, Ukraine. Events of February 18, 2014–4. — By Mstyslav Chernov/Unframe/ — Licensed under the Creative Commons

Why is it taking place in someone else’s country?
Why have you brought your weapons, your tanks, your bombs, your military planes, into our towns?

The speaker of Russian Ministry of Foreign Affairs, a woman called Zakharova, stated that all the videos and photos of the bombed towns and injured or killed Ukrainian civilians are fake, fabricated by NATO. I have seen and read a lot of things that are hard to believe. This, however, takes the prize. But is it surprising that people who permanently live in Russia and see and hear the endless waterfall of lies, lies, lies and more dehumanisation — would believe it?

But I forget. Ukrainians aren’t people in Russian’s eyes.

Dehumanisation happens when a group of people is consistently represented as deprived of positive human qualities. Usually it’s done by another group of people, let’s call it group number two, that wants to destroy the first one. Because, obviously, it’s difficult to kill people. Thou shalt not kill, remember?



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In German, Rabenmutter is a “Raven mother” — a mother, neglecting her children. In short, not a very good mother.